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Beniboba Princewill: Plans for Valentine

Through January it is at the back of your mind, and as February comes, you are forced to step out of denial and succumb to the reality that you will not be receiving a floral card that says, “Be Mine.” So you watch all your friends and their loved ones make plans for Valentine, observe the insurmountable gestures of love everywhere (Facebook, BBM, Twitter, Instagram, I mean EVERYWHERE!).

Then V-Day comes, a few friends get Valentines and it’s pretty sweet, but in the meantime we are content. We know our worth does not rest in these heart shaped chocolates or the affections of another. We continue to put our energy into living boldly, fiercely and free, seeking to show Christ to others in our day to day actions. Occasionally,  we may feel a little discouraged but Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be a reminder of what we don’t have, but rather a reminder of how much we have to bring to the table and the love already present in our lives.

When I am pitied for my singleness, it becomes easier to discredit my self-worth. When I start to feel sorry for myself, I believe that being single means I live a lesser life and that I cannot contribute as much to the Kingdom without a significant other. This is simply not true.
I’ve suggested a couple of things you can do on that day if you feel bored:

  1. Spend time with family
    There’s no love quite like that of a family. Don’t be afraid to spend time this Valentine’s Day with your family. They love you more than anyone else, so why not show your family that you appreciate their company?
  2.  Spend some quiet time alone with your Savior
    We always want to get away with the people we love the most. Why not set aside time for the One who loves you above all else? He wants to spend time with you more than you know. This Valentine’s Day get alone with Jesus and spend some time talking with Him.
  3. Curl up with a good book
    I’m currently doing a reading challenge, so I’ll use that day to read. Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to curl up with some warm blankets, a hot drink, and good book. Don’t just fill your mind with love stories and romance novels. Take the time to read something that will inspire you, encourage you, or teach you something new.
  4. Call a family member
    Do you have family members that are far away, lonely, or elderly? Give one of them a call. It could be a couple minutes to say high or a good 20 minutes to catch up on each other’s lives. Use this special day to catch up with a family member and show them you care.
  5. Watch an inspirational movie
    It’s an amazing feeling to relax and watch a movie that inspires you. If you stay at home on Valentine’s Day, why not watch something that speaks to your heart?
  6. Review your New Year resolutions
    Now’s the time to make things happen. Being single is a blessing in many ways. You have more time, more spending money, and fewer responsibilities. Take some time to review the resolutions you made at the beginning of the year and try to catch up with the ones you are already falling behind on. You will be so glad you did.

Now Valentine’s Day is even on a Sunday so, go to church early (listen to every word of the sermon), get back home and make lunch and spend time with your family, have the precious Sunday afternoon nap 😀 and go to fellowship in the evening (when last did you go to fellowship? ;))

How do you plan on spending Valentine’s day? Would love to hear from you! Probably I can get other ideas of things to do as well.

P.S If you’re spending it with that special someone, I’m happy for you 🙂 Feel free to share what plans you have as well.

♥Love Quotes for the Day:
If we have got the true love of God shed abroad in our hearts, we will show it in our lives. We will not have to go up and down the earth proclaiming it. We will show it in everything we say or do.
Dwight L. Moody

God teaches us to love by putting some unlovely people around us. It takes no character to love people who are lovely and loving to you.
Rick Warren




Beniboba Princewill is an accountant but she’s very curious about a lot of things from food,  photography, fashion, people, books and most recently…. Her hair.




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  1. I have no special plans for Sunday aka Valentine’s day cos I really do not get the whole hype attached to the day, lol. I believe love should be shown and expressed everyday. but I wouldn’t mind a box of chocolate this season #widegrin#
    Thanks for the Val day suggestions Beniboba Princewill

    1. Beniboba says:

      Hey Distinguished,

      i believe love should be shown and expressed everyday too but then again its like the reason why we believe in Christmas day even when Jesus should always be the reason for the season.

      Happy Valentines day in advance!!

      P.S: I also want a box (or boxes) of chocolate, so if you know where they’re sharing it biko let me know :*

  2. Love this…
    My almost every valentine tradition is to visit an orphanage or a home and give..of my time, gifts and prayers of the place… this year I do not feel so revved up on it but was reminded yesterday of a passage in 1Timothy that says “women who claim to be devoted to God should make that known by the good things they do…”

    I really want to build on the love I show to others, homes, orphanages, etc. I do that round the year but since I’ve been single..(a long time if I might add), i’ve made it a must for Feb 14th period..

    Church has a Valentine programme scheduled too so the day is filled with activities… but I am not too interested in activities, wanna fill up my heart with God…
    Also to spend crazy time with God. I feel Him tugging on me. Yesterday, today sef…. so let’s go love up on the One who beckons…

    1. Beniboba says:

      Hey dear,
      God bless you for what you’re doing. I’ve always wanted to visit the orphanage or a home but i always have an excuse not to 🙁

      On V-Day, I’ll most probably just go to church, get back home, sleep and go to fellowship in the evening, and get ready for work on Monday. lol

  3. Temitope Ogunyinka says:

    Hey Beniboba! Thanks for these tips. Usually I spend Valentines day at home watching a movie. When I was in school us girls ordered a cake for ourselves and bought food to celebrate the day. This year? Well I’m hanging out with a special someone 🙂

    1. Whoop whoop! 🙂 🙂 (Yes, I just had to.)
      You once mentioned that you would share your love story with us someday, hope you haven’t forgotten. 🙂

      1. says:

        @thegracedmisfit… Lol! I haven’t forgotten. Surprised you even remembered. 🙂 Would still share someday. The day draws nearer. 🙂

        1. Beniboba says:

          Yes o Tope. Please share this story already! I’ve been waiting for it since.

          1. says:

            @ Beniboba… lol. I will share soonest 🙂

    2. Beniboba says:

      😉 😀

  4. Very spot on, Beniboba. Thanks for these tips – they are relevant not just for Valentine’s day but for every other day. I

    I don’t have plans to do anything different on Valentine’s day. Well I’ll bake a cake for my church peeps to show some love but I’ve been planning to do that anyway. 😀

  5. Beniboba says:

    Hey dear,
    I don’t have any plans on that day too.

    Oh wait, I do have plans i will go to church, get back home, sleep and go to fellowship in the evening, and get ready for work on Monday. 😀

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