By Temitope Ogunyinka
Well, I didn’t exactly beg God for a husband, but for a certain man to be my husband. I was sharing my story with a blog sister of mine who liked a guy and was going through something I had gone through and I decided to share it with you as well.
I was in my third year in the university and there was this guy that I really liked. He was a couple of years older than me but the age gap didn’t scare me away, in fact it thrilled me.
I had given my life to Christ sometime back and was reading my bible as well as books on love and relationships.
I read those books on love and relationships ’cause I didn’t want to mess things up. Having a good relationship was very important to me, being that my parents separated when I was a week old. I was determined not to have a failed relationship.
So when this guy came into the picture I was determined to love him and be there for him even before things got serious; even though I was already thinking of marriage with him and how it would be like.
As time went, we were getting close and liking each other more and then I made up my mind to ask God if this was truly the guy for me. The guy I would spend the rest of my life with.
I didn’t want to ask before ‘cause I was afraid of what the answer would be.
I didn’t want the love I had going on to end.
And so one night I went to God in prayers and threw the fleece as Gideon did in the bible, telling God that if he called me that night (during our midnight calls), then I would know he’s the guy for me. But if he’s not the guy . . . He shouldn’t bother calling.
The minutes went by and then hours. I was awake . . . Anxious; I couldn’t sleep. Didn’t want to miss his call. But when time went and he didn’t call, I prayed. Hot tears filled my eyes and trickled down my cheeks as I begged God for him to call.
I wanted him to be the guy for me.
I didn’t want to start over when I had put in a lot of my time and emotions into the relationship.
And so I did what I could do.
I pleaded with God. Begged Him.
And then I felt peace in my heart. Not too long after that he called me and I was elated. To me that was God giving me a go ahead.
Now our relationship went on but I discovered we had different values.
He claimed to be a Christian but he had some values I didn’t quite agree with. One was he wanted his girlfriend to spend time with him in his house . . . For them to know if they would be compatible after marriage. We argued about it a lil’ and I just shrugged it off. I should have taken the red flag as a sign and run away, but I didn’t. Later on I had a dream that I went to visit him at his house but his mother didn’t welcome me, but when his ex came . . . His mother welcomed her.
The dream seemed odd to me, but I placed it at the back of my mind and still kept on in the relationship.
Down the road we faced different issues; some my fault . . . A couple his.
The relationship came to an end later on.
We both tried to make it work but it didn’t. He later went back to his ex and I went my way.
So what happened to the peace I felt that night I begged God?
Why did I get what I wanted?
Why didn’t God just disregard my desires and do His will?
I can say I begged God for something I wanted at the time but He knew it wasn’t so good for me. . . Why did He let it happen?
Things happen in life. Relationships fail. You may ask, why did I feel at peace in a relationship that wasn’t heading anywhere.
Later on I got to know it just wasn’t meant to be. I learnt lessons from it. I learnt that when I ask God for something and get peace. . . It may be that He’s telling me He’s heard.
He could also be telling me to wait.
It may not necessarily mean He has granted the request.
If I got married to the guy we may have had lots of issues.
So . . .
Did I get over it? Most definitely.
Did it take time and was it painful? Yes.
Am I better of? Yes!
Did I learn something from it? Of course.
Are we still friends? Well, sort of. We talk amicably.
Do I still want us back together? No.
At the end of the day, I’m happy where I am . . . And I suppose he is as well.
It’s best not to jump into a relationship just ’cause you have developed feelings for the other person.
Wait on God first and ask Him about it.
Find out what He thinks about it.
You can prevent a heartbreak from occurring if you wait on God first and don’t let your feelings get ahead of you.
Have you been in such a situation or you’re currently in one now? Please share below in the comment section. Would love to hear from you!
Happy New Month! I pray that new doors of favor, blessings and breakthrough shall be opened to you this new month in Jesus name, Amen.
♥ Bible Quote for the Day:
Proverbs 3: 5-6 KJV
3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 3:6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
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