Living with Eternity in Mind #8:
Milk, Meat and Bone of Marriage
So this topic had been on my mind for a while and today I decided to flesh it up and share with you guys. It’s a funny topic right? I’m sure you’re wondering what food has to do with marriage.
*smile* Keep reading.
Now, we’ve been talking about LWEIM for a while now and you may be asking yourself, how can I live with eternity in mind when I’m married? While living with eternity in mind as a married man or woman you can work with your spouse.
Paul said in 1 Corinthians 7 verses 33-35 (NCV).
33 But a man who is married is busy with things of the world, trying to please his wife. 34 He must think about two things – pleasing his wife and pleasing the Lord. A woman who is not married or a girl who has never married is busy with the Lord’s work. She wants to be holy in body and spirit. But a married woman is busy with things of the world, as to how she can please her husband. 35 I am saying this to help you, not to limit you. But I want you to live in the right way, to give yourselves fully to the Lord without concern for other things.
Marriage is hard work. You don’t just think of yourself alone but of your spouse, children and the home. There are responsibilities placed on you that could sometimes be overwhelming and you find it hard to pray and do things you used to do when you were single. I’ve been there. When I had my son I wasn’t having my quiet time, I was tired, cranky, easily irritated . . . You get the drift. This continued for a while and hubby was always encouraging me to pray and read my bible but I was struggling. And that also reflected in my writing. I couldn’t write as often as I wanted to because I wasn’t spending time with God.
I’m glad to say things have changed. I’m reading my bible now (though not as much as I would like but I will get there), enjoying my fellowship with God and how He talks to me. And now I have completed the novel He laid in my heart to write.
I read an article in Desiringgod.org, that marriage can be used as a means of improving our devotion to Jesus. Not the other way around.
In other words, don’t just be seeking God to spice up your marriage so it’s heaven on earth and fantastic. Seek Him in your marriage to improve your relationship with Him. We may have gotten it twisted that marriage is all about a happily ever after on earth. But it’s more than that.
Hebrews 5:12-13 NCV, 12 By now you should be teachers, but you need someone to teach you again the first lessons of God’s message. You still need the teaching that is like milk. You are not ready for solid food. 13 Anyone who lives on milk is still a baby and knows nothing about right teaching.
1 Peter 2:2 NCV, As newborn babies want milk, you should want the pure and simple teaching. By it you can mature in your salvation,
1 Corinthians 3:1-3 NCV, 1 Brothers and sisters, in the past I could not talk to you as I talk to spiritual people. I had to talk to you as I would to people without the Spirit – babies in Christ. 2 The teaching I gave you was like milk, not solid food, because you were not able to take solid food. And even now you are not ready. 3 You are still not spiritual, because there is jealousy and quarrelling among you, and this shows that you are not spiritual. You are acting like people of the world.
So, what does milk, meat and bone stand for in marriage?
Milk in marriage stands for those seemingly ‘simple’ things of marriage like understanding what marriage is about, leaving your family and cleaving to your spouse, getting to understand each other and so forth.
Meat stands for what happens during the course of marriage like keeping the attraction, getting to communicate effectively, raising godly children, having a happy home, resolving conflicts, dying to self (which is a continual process), fighting not with each other but against the devil.
Marriage isn’t just about finding the right man or woman, getting married, having kids and living your happily ever after like in the romantic Movies. That after marriage, nothing else matters as long as you’re both happy and in love. Though that’s not a bad thing, it’s not the end of marriage.
It’s just the foundation.
Milk is for building the bones upon which the flesh would rest on. The milk of marriage is just the beginning. It is what would carry you to the core of what your marriage is about.
The bone of marriage.
The bone of marriage is the most fulfilling part. It’s where you showcase the glory of God to others. It’s where you and your spouse don’t just view your marriage as simply just having a happy home and raising godly children. It’s where you see both yourselves as a great tool in God’s army. It’s where you live in the light of eternity; winning souls for God, building one another up, mirroring the image of Christ and the church to the world with your unconditional love.
The stages of the milk and meat are building you and your spouse to where you can both work in harmony to increasing the Kingdom of God. Search within you and ask where you are . . .
Bible Quote for the Day: Deuteronomy 32:30 NCV, One person cannot chase a thousand people, and two people cannot fight ten thousand unless their Rock has sold them, unless the LORD has given them up.