Facing trouble is essential for developing character and internal growth. Trouble either makes a person bigger, or smaller. It never leaves him exactly the way he was before.
I must confess that the above and this addition to #TAC is easier read than practised, even for me. Then again I’m young and my experiences are limited. Yours may not be the same.
Truth is, sometimes life will kick you in the gut and there would be little or nothing to have been done to avoid it. I mean, a problem that is break and mar. No escape. For example, being born without hands and legs. The loss of a spouse and child during delivery or having to file for bankruptcy when you are supposed to be a financial expert.
I wrote this trembling because everyone is going to get tested at one point or the other in life. Your test would look like a ride in the park to someone else and their’s may look easier than that to you. It is at these hard times that you need to make hard decisions.
Do I hold on to my ego?
Do I break down and cry? Forever?
Do I end it all in suicide?
Do I stay depressed for ages?
Do I speak up & see help?
Do I turn my back on God & rebel?
Do I compromise my values?
What’s the point of going on and more importantly how do I get out of this rut?
Arriving at a decision is bound to take some time. Some stay in the problem phase for years, being depressed and ‘owning’ the problem/label but a small percentage decide to make it out and bounce back up.
Most definitely times are hard, life is unfair, humans would certainly disappoint and let you down, your parents may get a divorce or worse still your spouse leaves you or dies (etc). These and many more call for hard decisions.
A decision that may hurt in itself.
A decision to move forward.
A decision to bounce back.
A decision to marry again.
A decision to start all over from scratch.
A decision to refuse to throw in the towel.
If you failed in business and recovered from that, your recovery from future failures become faster until you get to a point where you don’t fail again. This is a mindset thing. Then again, it’s all a mindset thing. The decision to keep pushing on, to forge ahead, to decide, to make the hard decision is mental. This is the THINK phase.
We all face troubles but do we let them mould us into getting bigger or smaller? Certainly we don’t remain the same. The answer lies in our actions afterwards. Bearing in mind that afterwards may be six months, or six years. Do we act like champions who get better by the troubles they encounter, problems they solve or do we join the bulk of the population whining and complaining? This is the ACT phase.
The awesome combination of arriving upon the hard decision to bounce back and take control of your life plus the actions to make the decision a reality will give the desired change that we want. This is the CHANGE phase.
Whatever your decision is, remember to THINK forward towards getting better. ACT on these thoughts and see the CHANGE that you deserve.
Would you like to share the troubles you have overcome or hard times you are facing? Feel free to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org
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☆ Life Quote for the Day:
“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.”
– Albert Ellis
Oladapo Omotosho is a trained public health specialist, public speaker and wealth generation consultant. He believes in people pushing the limits around them. He runs the Think Act Change (TAC) campaign which is focused on helping people get the best out of life. He currently has 3 years public speaking experience, a close relationship with God and is working on a project to impact 1000 lives directly before 2020.
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