When I decide my topics … oops! I actually don’t decide them, they jump at me. Then I sit and do a force think. I allow my mind to roam on an issue and I try to capture those thoughts on paper. I was writing my thoughts on love when the love triangle jumped at me.
So what exactly is the love triangle?
Let me just state that I’m no love expert. My very good friend, the author of Rings and Roses, is the love expert. She has loads of love stories, concepts, ideas and other things. She may not agree much with this but then this is a free world and I’m being free with my thoughts.
TO KNOW: I may discover that someone has some qualities I like that attract me to a him or her. Let me say her and direct this piece to a girl – guy relationship [which is what we call romantic love]. So this babe has a nice shape ( I find it amusing that there’s a shape for humans . . . Certainly not the ones we were taught in primary school) or her eyes are beautiful, she’s caring etc. (Depends on your taste).
This knowledge makes me interested in meeting her, getting to know her more, trying to start a conversation, forging a relationship and so on. I see what I like. The process makes me want to find out more about her, and I do. But oh no, she has some attributes I also don’t like. Maybe she likes dirty jokes, doesn’t respect time, or any other thing that ticks me off. At this point I have gathered sufficient knowledge.
DECISION: Next is for me to decide upon the knowledge I have. Do I want to go ahead despite the ‘downsize’? Do I place higher value on the things that attracted me over the behaviour or features or habits that turn me off? I believe this is very key.
Late Dr. Munroe said ignorance or lack of knowledge is a key to split-ups in relationships. So amazing I didn’t know I certain flaw about her [like she snores or can’t cook] do I let this knowledge push me away? The decision to persist despite this knowledge just may lead to an amazing life or a long hell… depends.
ACTION: This is where I act upon the knowledge I have. Here u act out the decision I have made. Should I leave my wife of 5 years to marry another lady ’cause she can’t conceive? Or do I decide to stay and give our love a fighting chance. I believe these things are harder than they seem. Actions speak louder than the words I love you, which are very easy to vomit.
I decided upon the love triangle because I thought to myself, my future wife will not be perfect [just like me], but I would decide nonetheless to love her till I die and stick to this decision backed up by my actions.
I usually write on Think Act Change, these are my thoughts that would lead to actions – what do you think? Please leave me a comment.
♥ Love quote for Today:
“Whatever a person may be like, we must still love them because we love God.” ~ John Calvin
Oladapo Omotosho is a trained public health specialist, public speaker and wealth generation consultant. He believes in people pushing the limits around them. He runs the Think Act Change (TAC) campaign which is focused on helping people get the best out of life. He currently has 3 years public speaking experience, a close relationship with God and is working on a project to impact 1000 lives directly before 2020.
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