Oladapo Omotosho: Unlearn, Learn and Re-learn


UNLEARN: Try to forget; put out of one’s memory or knowledge. To discard something previously learnt, like a old habit.

LEARN: Gain knowledge, become aware, commit to memory, be a student of, find out, discover.

RE-LEARN: Learn something again, as after having forgotten or neglected it.

Unlearn, learn and relearn. All these are verbs. These are skills we need to become better in life. Needless to say, learning is a continuum. When we stop learning, we start dying. As easy as that sounds so many people are stuck with ideas of OLD. Today I want you to question the status quo, challenge the things you know or thought you knew and ask probing questions.

What do I know/do that I need to stop doing i.e unlearn? It may be a bad habit like if you want to unlearn how to smoke. What do I need to replace the previous knowledge or habit with. If I stopped smoking what do I replace it with and how well do I need to re-learn this new habit?

When we were kids, we had good fun; sat on the ground, laughed out loud, ran around everywhere and especially when told ‘don’t run’, we still did. Over time we learned to ‘comport ourselves’, we learned certain behaviours. We learned to be afraid, we learned to have a poverty mentality, we possibly learned to be corrupt and other skills or habits we aren’t necessarily proud of. The good news is we can unlearn these things. Just as we can put them down now that we are grown.

This would be a follow-up to my piece on ‘Are you the secret to success?. Don’t stay stagnant. You need to do a soul search. For instance, if procrastination is your special devil, then I have good news for you; it can be conquered. In getting better we simply need to do the following:

  1. Locate What Should Be Unlearned. Discover what your bad habit is. Locate the fear that keeps you small. Come out of the shadow of your mum, dad, brother, etc. Find the problem. This helps you know what you are up against. Do a mental check-up, and an emotional diagnosis.
  2. Accept & Disown It! I have met some people who claim ownership to some problems, they believe it’s their cross to carry. They refuse to do anything creative, redemptive or productive about the situation. This is terribly unhealthy. After you discover your issue, the next thing is accept it as the problem, don’t fight it but also don’t stop there. It’s like the old song that says, ‘if you are going to hell don’t hold it, if you’re going through hell don’t stop’.
  3. Find A Solution. Every problem has a solution. Find it. If you lack peace or joy then the possible solution is Jesus Christ! If you smoke then QUIT. If you procrastinate then you need to eat that frog! Learn to do what would move you away from the habit you are avoiding. At this point I must state that it would be hard, especially if you have had that mindset/habit for so many years but as you keep relearning the new habit, over time you are bound to see the change you desire.

Learning requires effort. You have to become aware and commit to memory. This may not be easy but it’s very essential towards what you want to achieve. As you keep relearning, it becomes easier, just as any skill . . . The more you practice, the better you become.

Just don’t stay stagnant, learning is a continuum. THINK about it. What do I need to stop, start and repeat? Go ACT on it and see the CHANGE you deserve.

Oladapo Omotosho.

What things have you had to Unlearn and Relearn in your life so far? Please share in the comment box below.

★ Life Quote for the day:
“The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire, the size of your dream and how you handle disappointment along the way.” – Robert Kiyosaki


Oladapo Omotosho is a trained public health specialist, public speaker and wealth generation consultant. He believes in people pushing the limits around them. He runs the Think Act Change (TAC) campaign which is focused on helping people get the best out of life. He currently has 3 years public speaking experience, a close relationship with God and is working on a project to impact 1000 lives directly before 2020.

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  1. It’s always great to read your articles Dapo. I have been undoubtedly blessed by your thought provoking analysis on life’s issues. Indeed, this one resonates a lot with me personally. I see myself learning new things everyday and it has surely helped me immeasurably. We must never stop learning and may I say, we can learn from any situation and we can equally unlearn from situations too. Bad habits die slowly goes the saying, but they also kill swiftly. We must drop bad habits as if we handled a hot metal. Have a lovely day. Remember, we learnt that Rome was not built in a day and we have lived with this saying for centuries. But, I was privileged to meet an Italian from Rome a few years ago and I quoted this same adage to him. To my surprise, his response has never stopped mesmerising me till now. He said Paul, in Rome we say the same, but we don’t stop there. We say, Rome was not built in a day, but it was built day by day. So, in other words, something was done on a daily basis to build Rome.

    • Rome was built day by day. It’s like saying Rome is still being built. Thanks a lot uncle Paul. I have learned something new again from you.

    • You are welcome Ashedzi, that’s a unique name you have. Where are you from?

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