The Comparison Game


Ever wondered if you are where you were supposed to be? Or probably you know for a surety that you are no where near what you’re supposed to be . . . Well, I’ve been there and still working on getting myself out of it. I find myself looking at other people and celebrating their successes and how they are climbing up the ladder, then looking back at myself and I’m like, ‘gosh why am I still here?’ Don’t get me wrong . . . I’m happy for those who are making it and all, but I can’t help but ask myself WHEN I WOULD MAKE IT?

The question comes to mind and I can’t simply get an answer or a specific date when things would turn around for good. Whether it’s not having a job or having a job and waiting for promotion, or still being single, or not living in that dream house and driving that dream car that you want. Let’s face it, you not having the things you really desire compels you to compare yourselves with other people that are well-off. But does that mean it’s right? It’s okay if we want to set a pedestal for ourselves and be like . . . ‘That’s where I want to get to someday in the future’. But whining about it and getting depressed when we compare ourselves makes it wrong. 

Why should I take up the habit of comparing myself with someone else? Yes, the person is getting better and all, but I don’t know how long it took that person to get there and the various hurdles the person faced. I’m learning, and I know that we all have different talents and passions.

We all have different areas that we succeed in. For instance, a banker could be moving up in her career and another person who’s a teacher is getting depressed ‘cause she’s not succeeding and making the big money. They are swimming in different ponds!

The bible makes us know comparison doesn’t help us one bit. If I compare myself to another person, like I usually find myself doing, I just get sad and start asking God why I’m still here and feeling sorry for myself. Or if I’m so good at what I’m doing and look down on others, that’s just pride rubbing my head and leading me to destruction. God doesn’t want either of that for me or anyone of us. I believe what He wants for me (us) is to have a positive comparison to the standards He has set for each of us.

Galatians 6: 3-4 (AMP) ‘3For if any person thinks himself to be somebody [too important to condescend to shoulder another’s load] when he is nobody [of superiority except in his own estimation], he deceives and deludes and cheats himself. 4 But let every person carefully scrutinize and examine and test his own conduct and his own work. He can then have the personal satisfaction and joy of doing something commendable [in itself alone] without [resorting to] boastful comparison with his neighbour.’

Are we maturing spiritually? Are we growing in the faith? Growing in love? Are we all He (God) wants us to be? Are we nearer to where He wants us to be or are we farther away from it? Like I said, I’m learning and I know God has different paths for each of us. We each have different purposes and destinations in life.

Comparing myself to someone whose path is so further from mine is just going to cause a self-esteem damage. Even if the person is on the same path as me or is so much further ahead . . . God is teaching me to wait on Him and keep following His lead. My eyes should be focused on Him rather then the people beside me or I would either lose track of where I’m headed to or fall off the path entirely.

How do we get over comparison? By Keeping Our Focus On God. We follow Him as He leads us on the path He wants us to go.
Is it easy watching other people get ahead? No. It’s hard. But then I’m learning to keep focus on Jesus. He has good plans for me and His timing is perfect. So no comparison for me . . . At least I’m trying. 🙂

God help us all.

Love you guys,
Temitope Ogunyinka.

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Temitope Ogunyinka, is a loving, caring and friendly person. She is passionate about impacting the world through timeless wisdom and knowledge found in her thought provoking stories and writing that applies to all ages. Her stories and articles cut across love, relationship and romance in a way that does not deny the relevance of God in our everyday life. She is a devoted christian, passionate about bringing people to the knowledge of God’s true and unfailing love.


  1. the thoughts of God towards us are thought of peace to give us an expected end all we have to do is look up to Him

  2. Thanks for this. I saw the quote ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ on one of my friend’s posts on social media. comparison is indeed a thief of joy. at the end of the day it’s just knowing that life isn’t a race.. each person has their own trials and obstacles and victories they will face. We need to each maintain our champion/ face out work /stay in our lanes because what God is doing in your life is not necessarily what He’s doing in another person’s life. Fact is He knows what He’s doing so trust Him and His ability to make your life worth living..#my50kobo

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