Bible study,Life Issues

Dying to Anger

By Temitope Ogunyinka

Colossians 3:8 KJV, But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth. [Emphasis Mine]

ANGER. This is something I really want to rid myself of. I’ve had anger issues since I was little and it’s been a thorn in my flesh. Sometimes it’s inconsequential things that get me angry, other times my anger is warranted and after all has been settled . . . I don’t know how to let it go.

It usually takes me awhile to get over what happened ’cause the scenario plays over and over in my mind making it difficult to forget. By all means it’s better for me to avoid anyone who would trigger the fiery side of me, but then life can’t be that way ‘cause no one is an island. No matter where I am there would always be someone who does something I wouldn’t like (we all aren’t the same and have different values and thought patterns). So avoiding the world is not possible. So what do I do?

Ephesians 4 verse 26-27 AMP
26. When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down. 27. Leave no [such] room or foothold for the devil [give no opportunity to him].

People would stir up anger, either knowingly or unknowingly… either through speeches or actions that tend to irritate or annoy me. But I realise I have CONTROL over REACTING to whatever anyone does. It’s my choice to get angry or not if someone offends me. There are times I get so angry that unkind words want to escape my lips but I hold them back and cool off a little before thinking up better ways to get my message across. But that is just sometimes, not all the time. Other times I let anger take control and talk.

Anger is something I have to keep fighting and not relent on if I want to have a good relationship with those around me and have a good marriage in the future.

If you’re going through this as well you could repeat the below prayers for yourself:

– Father, please take away the spirit of anger from my life. Destroy it completely.
– Father whatever anyone does to me.. Help me to forgive and let it go easily.
– Father please fill my heart with your love and help me love others as I should.

We can’t stop praying against anger. If we want complete freedom from it we have to pit it away everyday so that it no longer becomes a problem for us.

As much as I can, I would try to not let anger get the best of me. I’m praying about it and reading up articles and highlighting verses in the bible that talk of anger and remembering them, hoping God would help me in getting rid of anger in my life. You could also take time out to highlight verses in the bible and meditate on them so that each time you get angry you remember them.

I would love to hear from you… how do you deal with anger in your life?

Bible Quote for the Day:
Proverbs 16:32 KJV; He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.




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  1. Seun says:

    Nicely said, anger in itself is an expression of disapproval of something, in John 2:13-16 Jesus action was a clear expression of being displeased at what was done in the temple, the main issues with anger are
    1. For what purpose do you get angry and
    2. Does your anger led to rage and unforgiveness which I believe this is what Paul was referring to in the epistle he wrote.

    I use myself has an example my anger in the past was for two reasons:
    1. I relied on the words and action of men and so if they fail to meet my own expectation I get angry
    2. When i plan something and it isn’t going my way.

    I discovered that has I became more knowledgeable about myself in Christ and has I read more of the written word two things i came to understand Do not trust in the flesh including in what people say and do for you and to you our trust should only be in God, I trust God for you as a believer but if you mess up I know you are still restricted in the flesh so it doesn’t bother me, Only Gods words and action of Love is unbreakable for me. when you understand his forgiveness is understood and learnt in the long run.

    I appreciate you when you say and stick to your word but also not crucify you if you do not.
    I also came to understand for those who are not in Christ they speak and act out of ignorance and unawareness of sometime their actions, so its easy for unreasonable thoughts and action to be seen more often so I easily ignore or leave the premise and lastly i choose my friends and those i like to commune with at length or just short brief words.

    I do not get frustrated or angry again when it seems I lack understanding or control with things happening around me i just switch to worship and praise knowing it is well because i am in the Son, then prayerfully ask.

    So ask yourself why do you get angry? i believe control of anger is in understanding of self in Christ through the written word, His word above your defeated experience experiences, Galatians % speaks of the Fruit of the spirit we possess by virtue of accepting Jesus as our lord and saviour, Pray with his written words and promises and i believe with time you see improvements.

  2. Seun says:

    *Galatians 5

  3. Adekanye Deborah says:

    The thoughts of doing crazy things to the person keeps crossing my mind And if am unable to do so i feel unsatisfied Then that hatred for that fellow grows .
    I am always rude to anyone who makes me angry I make sure they know what they did wrong And I always want vengeance
    I know it’s taking over me so i just step aside and stay away from anyone who would make me go angry and do crazy things
    That feeling i can’t explain But i try pray to God to calm me

    1. Seun says:

      Hello Deborah, one thing I will say before I give an opinion to assist you is this. The Holy Spirit is the one and only person that can cause transformation, in your case feeling unease and unsatisfied and wanting to repay that person. Because any word written here today cannot be carried out humanly, that I know you know.

      So first of like I said anger is an expression of displeasure, the problems with it are how it is expressed to the other party and how long it stays within. In your case you are having problem with unforgiveness, I will give some scriptures you can go through to have an up to date knowledge of unforgiveness as a whole at the end of this. It is good to be knowledgeable so you know how to pray and where to pray from.

      I believe strongly in the power of prayer and one done when you are properly equipped with the word of Life because that is where the solution lies.

      Any other information or advice will only teach you skills in managing anger and unforgiveness which to be honest will be settling for less than what God has called us into. For we can live above those feelings that control some of actions because we live by the spirit.(Romans 8:1-17)

      We can forgive because we have been forgiven (Matthew 6:12-15), we have the nature of forgiveness in our spiritual dna because that is the story of the cross (all the fruit of the spirit grow on this platform) ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:1-17.

      The world will want you to believe forgiving is weak and being nice will make you look pathetic or sad but this is the truth we and people who think like that are polar opposite. (1. Corinthians 2:11-16), your enemies are not human beings or those that annoy you remember the devil is a scheme artist he does everything to take your heart away from the relevant things(which our heart being focused on God) you therefore pray for them this allows for God to discipline them his own way ( Matthew 5:44-45)

      Also remember one of the devils ministry is to destroy, destroy profitable relationships is one of them don’t give him room. (John10:10). Also know that anger can be from perspective the way you see things, always allow for some boarder understanding of matters as the devil begins to feed your version of the truth with instances and lies if you only see things from your angle (he usually plays you are the victim card)

      Remember that prayer is not a function but a communication mechanism you must believe that the words you speak are the truth, power and Life.( Hebrews 4:12,mark 11:24) You are speaking into your spiritual situation and therefore will see a physical manifestation. If you pray half hearted I can tell you nothing will change, if you pray because it’s a duty to you nothing will change it must be from the heart.

      Remember also when praying you pray with understanding speaking his words back to him and professing into your life.

      Being a christian is living Christ nature on earth which is foolishness and weak to most people but the power and the wisdom of God. (1. Corinthians 1:18-31.)

      So my sister only believe when you pray there is nothing effective prayer cannot solve, also remember change are in steps never get discourage if you find yourself doing it again, remain strong, keep praying, keep believing and keep giving thanks to God. God has already helped us by sending his son to die for us and giving us his spirit and the word of life and truth but we must act on them.

      I will also pray alongside you as a fellow believer and I know this carnal natured habit will be broken in Jesus name. Stay well and remain blessed.

      1. Adekanye Deborah says:

        Amen Thanks a lot for that

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