I met him at a Church programme… I noticed his body built and was like hmmm… that will work.
Didn’t think that he noticed me till about two weeks later, he resurfaced at church again and asked for my number.
And then it began!
And I was all shades of excited.
Deal was, he came to Church on a day when I felt really “led” to go to Church.
I didn’t want to go, but kept getting tugged on to go and surprise! After two weeks of not being in Church, he was there.
I put two and two together and started wondering if this was God’s way of bringing us together…
Again when we started talking and I was confused, I stumbled onto a love story which started almost like mine did and ended in marriage and I believe I was so desperate for confirmation from anywhere basically, and again thought, “this isn’t just a mere coincidence, God must be saying something!”.
God wasn’t saying nothing, I was the one fabricating all sorts of something in my head.
My saving grace was that I had dedicated my love life to God years back and had determined not to say yes to any man till God said yes.
So since I didn’t get an express yes, I stayed praying… and everything unravelled.
He wasn’t the one.
He had issues with staying chaste.
He had issues with being financially prudent.
His discretion and wisdom level was zilch.
And the icing on the cake was God expressly saying with circumstances that “this isn’t the one!”
But what happened to all those seemingly divinely orchestrated coincidences then?
I know we all believe that no coincidence happens in our lives and that’s true, but what’s to say that that “coincidence” that happened with that guy is God’s yes to you?
When it was all over, I remember walking home and nodding my head as I felt the Spirit teaching me that “not every coincidence is God’s will”.
What is God’s will then?
God’s will is what you have when you have renewed your mind, consecrated your body and mind and life to Him, and go to seek His face in prayers for His answer concerning that relationship.
When He answers you from His word which is His bond, then you can say that yes, this is God’s will.
But don’t go springing God’s confirmation on a relationship just because he appeared at Church or at the mall at the moment you were thinking about him.
When you are faced with a relationship decision to make, get on your knees before God, open up to Him in prayers and ask Him for His answer based on His word and what He thinks… not on coincidences.
Cheers to us all seeking God for ourselves…
Learning to hear Him speak…
And obeying Him when He speaks.
Frances Okoro is a lawyer by profession and a writer and Christian blogger by calling.
She has a heart for young girls and youths generally and runs “Awakening Youths”, an organization for awakening youths to God’s purpose and plan for their lives.
She is the author of two books…
You should absolutely download her FREE e-book “Chastity for Men” (with an exclusive chapter for the ladies) HERE