He Doesn’t Love Me… Should I Still Submit?

He Doesn’t Love Me… Should I Still Submit?

“You can stop over at the dry cleaners place and get my suits and shirts. Don’t forget I’m hosting some clients here later on in the evening so prepare a meal for us. Something a little fancy. Maybe chicken and sweet potatoes . . . You know how I like it.”

Stella folded her clothes and watched as Mark knotted his tie and while facing the mirror. Once upon a time she used to be the one doing that. Knotting his tie and making sure he was looking good for work. Looking at him lovingly as he would her and exchanging kisses. Now she no longer had the zeal to do so. 

“Stella did you hear me?” He asked, burrowing into her thoughts.

She nodded. “Yeah, I did. What time should I be expecting you?” 

“Six ish. But if things change I would let you know.” He sprayed some cologne on his neck and wrist and got on his office jacket. She couldn’t deny she was still attracted to her husband despite all that was going on. Her eyes looked over his grey suit and crisp white shirt with the green tie. 

He picked up his car keys from the bedside table. “Have a great day.”

He didn’t even kiss me goodbye. . .

Stella couldn’t push away the hurt. Why did she have to subject herself to a man who was treating her in such a way? It all felt like a chore now. Loving him. Doing all the things she did for him. It used to be out of joy but now she felt herself hesitant. Wasn’t it just two months ago during a fight he had said loving her was getting hard to do? If it was so hard then it could also be hard for her to do things for him. After all, she had feelings as well. 

She picked his wet towel from the bed. She still remembered how he had slapped her the other day just because she refused to follow his decision to open a joint account. Truth was she didn’t trust him anymore after how he had spent her savings on a business deal gone bad. After she had repeatedly told him it was a bad idea and would flop. 

She held back her tears. Today wasn’t a day for tears. It was her birthday after all. 
If you were Stella would you still submit? 
Today we look at a question that resonates on our minds as women. 

Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as [a service] to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the church, Himself the Savior of [His] body. As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.
Yeah, we should submit to our husband when we’re married. 
But what if the husband treats the wife badly? Or he doesn’t love her as Christ loves the church? Should she still submit?
Hmmm… I would wait for you guys to comment first before giving an answer. Please fam I really want more of you all to comment and share your thoughts on this. Wasn’t too happy with lastweek’s feedback. Ghostreaders please come out. 

Guys you are also free to comment. 😁

Let’s talk it out 👍

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